Scene 1 - Condom Enters
Lets face it, talking about condoms is awkward especially if it's your first time together.
It takes away from the raw passion that has been building up between you...
So you're finally alone, your kissing, your playing, hands are exploring, clothes are coming off and you're wondering when do we talk about condoms.
You start thinking...
"If I mention condoms will it break the mood?"
"Will he think I want to skip foreplay and just F--k"
"Does he even have one?"
"Is he planning on getting it out soon?"
or should go and get the one in your bag?
You have the condom in hand. Now What?
Most people think the aim here is to get that condom on as quickly as possible and just get on with it.
That's fine I guess, but if you think that there may be a second encounter then you want to set the scene and your expectations for times to come.
How the next few minutes play out will make the difference between awkward moments and feeling connected, sexy and turned on without skipping a beat.
This is how you do it
1. Ladies Take Control - Bring Your Own Supplies
Find a way of either having a condom in your pocket once you've realised you may need one. Find a way of dragging your bag around with you until you have reached your final destination. This way you have the control even if he has his own stash.
2. Who puts the condom in? You Do
Make sure you're the one putting the condom on him.
Ok so this is one option.
You putting it on gives him something visual to look at.
What guy doesn't like the idea of you touching him.
It gives you the control. That way next time you don't have to wait to see if he does or doesn't he will wait to see if you do.
3. Getting the Glove of Love On
The awkwardness surrounding condom use is usually at it's peak the first and second time you are with a new partner.
One way of spicing this moment up is by putting it on with your mouth.
I don't want to give away all of our secretes here so lets just say that you unroll the amount that you would normally, you start rolling it onto him. You put your mouth there as if you are pushing it down owner him with your mouth but since we are into safe sex, we don't want to risk you actually tearing it, so you use one of you hand to sneakily pull the rolled portion of the condom down his shaft.
Still looks hot, he has no idea and it feels good.
You have turned putting a condom on into a sexy sensual moment that he can look forward to next time.
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This blog post was inspired by the Gangnam Condom youtube clip.
The internet has an amazing array of sites and articles dedicated to the proper use of condoms. I have included a clip for those who would like to revise their condom style. ( I picked this clip cause he sounds cute).
- Getting him excited about using condoms from the very first time you put one on him
- Why flavoured might be a good idea
- The truth about condom sizes
- Which lubricant to use.