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Ever since I've been old enough to sneak copies of Teen Magazine at the middle school library, I've known that vaginas (sorry, "down theres") are mysterious, confusing places that need to be waxed, washed, wiped, and maintained lest all men run screaming away from you and you end up spending your life attachment parenting a series of rescue cats. As I matured and graduated to an entirely new level of man-obsessed stupidity in magazines, I gradually realized that while ladymags dispense plenty of advice on how vaginas should look, there's no real yardstick on how they should taste, or how a high achieving gal like me who just wants to have the tastiest snatch in town could go about getting it. Science must have some answers, right? Before we go any further, and lest I be accused of perpetuating the "man pleasing" ethos that permeates grocery store women's mags, I'd like to point out that having a tasty vagina isn't necessarily strictly a man-pleasing move; it's more a politeness move. If you like someone enough to have sex with them, then you should like them enough to hope that they enjoy performing oral sex on you — man, woman, whatever. It's not retro to make an effort to please a romantic partner, but it is if they expect you to make an effort but excuse a lack of effort on their own part (it's not only sexist; it's rude). So, for the sake of argument, let's assume that you're trying to freshen up your vaginal bouquet at the same time the dude is giving his balls a thorough washing and contemplating the taste of his semen, or when your female partner is similarly contemplating how the rainbow tastes. Okay? Okay.
Vaginas (or vulvas, nerds) taste the way they taste because of a combination of factors — your body's natural sweaty smells plus the smell of whatever detergent you use on your underwear plus the smell of any soaps you use plus the smell of the your vagina's juices, so the obvious first step to having a fragrant, delicious pubic region would be to thoroughly wash and wear clean laundry that you wash in soap that doesn't contain dyes or fragrances that will clash with your body's natural scent. It might seem like a good idea to douche with Malibu Musk in order to get a nice tropical vibe going in your southern hemisphere, but that's, uh, not the case. Don't do that. Keep it gentle, keep it minimally fragrant. Try taking a bath, if you've got time. Cotton panties (or, if you hate the word panties, "skivvies" or "pantaloons") are better than less breathable fabrics, since your crotch is sort of like an armpit between your legs.
Keeping the outside part of your flower clean is the easy part, though. What's tough is managing the juices, which are in a state of giant, near constant bacterial war, a war in which giant armies are murdered or raised in a matter of hours. Women have pretty unique vaginal bacterial fingerprints, and thus unique tastes.
Surprisingly, not much research has been done on what a girl can do to alter the makeup of her vaginal secretions in a way that's reflected in the taste, and so most advice for making your vagina taste awesome is based on old wives' tales and anecdotes and hilariously misspelled Yahoo answers. During my informal snooping and asking around, I found pineapple mentioned frequently as vaginal taste aid. Apparently, it's high in sugars, and when you eat it, some internal mechanism sends tiny Magic School Buses to your stomach to cart away the sweet pineapple molecules straight to your vagina. Also recommended: apples, celery, yogurt, red grapes, cranberry juice, lots of water, mint, watermelon, strawberries. Basically, anything that grows that isn't smelly.
According to the anecdata, any food that can make you have weird farts, bad breath, or strong smelling pee should be avoided — beer, coffee, alcohol, asparagus, most dairy, onions, shallots, meat, and fish. And while smoking will make you cool, like cooler than you could ever manage on your own, smoking will make the taste of your body's juices turn sour. If you already smoke and are about to defensively insist that your juices taste like peach nectar, just imagine how scrumptious you'd taste if you kicked the habit.
It should be noted that none of these things (aside from proper personal hygiene) have been beyond-a-shadow-of-a-doubt proven to change your vagina's taste. And if you've got a serious problem with odor or taste, you should consider the fact that there could be an imbalance at play and what you need isn't a pineapple and some oral, but a doctor an some antibiotics.
Finally, if he's got his face buried in your crotch, he's probably not going to be put off if the taste he's experiencing isn't that of a donut or glass of fine whisky; your vagina is never going to taste like a fruit salad, and that's okay. Remember: if he wanted to have a sweet snack, he'd go get a damn smoothie rather than eat your pussy.
Enjoy it, Lady MacGyver. You're delicious.
By Fai Shuster Kur
It's not easy for people to think that there may be elements about sex that they are not aware of, or that they can improve. In truth most of the additional elements exist in the relationship, communication, and intimacy outside the act of sex.
It is in this space where we can connect deeper and it's in this space where our relationships can start to unravel and fall apart if our sexual relationships are not able to satisfy our need for connect, love and intimacy...
Reposted by Fai Shuster Kur
The human vagina is a lively place, full of beneficial bacteria that discourage nasty microbes from invading. Now, new research finds this ecosystem is even more mysterious than previously realized.
Not only do women vary widely in what sorts of microbes call the vagina home, the study finds, but the ecosystem of the vagina can also change rapidly — to no ill effect. That's important, because while some vaginal infections are associated with changes in the vagina's native flora, it's now clear that not every change is a sign of disease.
"I think people are going to be surprised at the extent of variation that we see in these species, and that practitioners and women alike are going to see why they don't behave like their sisters or their daughters or the last patient that they saw," said study researcher Larry Forney of the University of Idaho.
The vaginal ecosystem
Researchers have increasingly come to realize that without the help of the microbes that live on our skin, in our guts and even in our reproductive systems, humans would be in trouble. Disruptions in gut bacteria have been linked to everything from obesity to depression, for example.
One of the most famous residents of the vagina is a group of bacteria called Lactobacillus, which produces lactic acid and helps keep the pH of the vagina around 4.5 — about the same acidity as the juice of a tomato. But studies have shown that at least five different types of bacterial communities that can colonize a woman's vagina. Types 1to 3 are dominated by Lactobacillus species, while the last two types are a diverse bunch without many Lactobacillus. White women are more likely to host a type 1 colony, dominated by Lactobacillus crispatus, than black women, who more often harbor diverse type 4 colonies.
Now, Forney, his colleague Jacques Ravel of the University of Maryland and their collaborators have shown that this vaginal microbial "fingerprint" changes over time in individual women, with one colony type displacing another, sometimes quite rapidly. The researchers analyzed vaginal microbe samples, taken by a swab twice a week for 16 weeks from 32 women. The women also kept daily diaries of their activities and hygiene.
"With 32 women, we can capture almost all the different types of communities that we have observed in previous samples," Ravel said.
The researchers analyzed the genes of the microbes discovered in order to identify them. They found that the vaginal ecosystem varies widely over time, sometimes changing during menstruation, sometimes swapping from one colony type for another as a result of sexual activity or unknown reasons. In some women, monthly bleeding didn't perturb the microbes at all; in others, the period heralded a short-lived era in which on microbe would reign supreme, only to be replaced when the bleeding ended by another species that dominated the rest of the month.
"We know that different women have different kinds of vaginal microbiota, and now we know that over time the dynamics of the change that we observed vary," Ravel told LiveScience.
The unstable world of the vagina is more than a scientific curiosity. Disruptions in the vaginal "microbiome" have been linked with bacterial vaginosis, a common condition sometimes marked by itching, unusual discharge and unpleasant odor.
The problem, said William Ledger, a gynecologist at Weill Cornell Medical College, is that about half of women who get a diagnosis of bacterial vaginosis have no symptoms at all — laboratory tests mark them as having an out-of-whack vaginal ecosystem, and most doctors respond with antibiotics to bring the vagina back to "normal." But the new study shows that it's actually fluctuations, not stability, that are normal for many women.
"What we're saying is there can be changes in the flora," said Ledger, who was not involved in the original study put penned an opinion piece published alongside it. "We think that women are probably in most cases able to modify these changes and get back to what their normal status is and that they shouldn't be treated [if they don't have symptoms]."
The research showed that even as microbes change, their essential functions might not, Ravel said. If you assume that the only healthy vagina is a Lactobacillus-colonized vagina, you might assume that if you don't see Lactobacillus present, the woman is ill. In fact, other species may take up the acid-generating slack in the absence of Lactobacillus, the researchers found.
"We hope that by using more personalized treatments based on what a woman looks like over time, you can actually start preventing disease instead of just curing [it]," Ravel said."It can have a lot of implications in medicine, for example, reducing the use of antibiotics."
Overuse of antibiotics can result in drug-resistant bacteria.
Mystery remains about what drives the changes in a woman's vaginal ecosystem. Unlike gut or skin bacteria, vaginal bacteria don't get outside sources of nutrients such as food or lotions (with the possible exception of vaginal lubricants), Forney said. Initial colonization probably happens at birth, but the bacterial colonies change during puberty and menopause, he said. Estrogen levels, sexual activity and menstruation likely all play a role in short-term fluctuations.
"It's a remarkable system in that it tends to stay within certain boundaries," Forney said. "You don't see the system just come apart. It comes back. It's a very resilient system."
That resilience and the specific bacteria that tend to show up suggest an evolutionary selection for bacteria that help women survive and pass on their genes in some way, Forney said. Besides the microbes' role in preventing vaginal infections, they may also play a role in fertility and childbirth, protecting the infant during labor, for example, Ravel said, though that is "all speculation."
The researchers are now studying a larger group of women and collecting daily vaginal samples to better understand how fast change happens. One hundred and sixty women are already enrolled and have sampled their vaginas on a daily basis for 10 weeks, Ravel said. The goal is both to understand any changes that come before a vaginal infection, and to unravel the mysteries of the microbiome more broadly, he said.
"One of our main drivers in some of the next-step questions that we are taking on is trying to understand the true function of the vaginal microbiota," Ravel said.
You can follow LiveScience senior writer Stephanie Pappas on Twitter @sipappas.
What does a sex therapist do?
I wish more people knew that sex therapists exist and the amazing work that we do. Yes we talk about sex but as we all know sex does not occur in a bubble, it exists within the context of your life. We incorporate the work of relationship and couples couselling and all of the individual factors that affect a persons sexual scenario.
Why do I raise this?
Once a week I have couples come in who are currently in therapy with another counsellor and they come to me to talk about sex! I am not complaining, this is brilliant as they are empowered enough to seek out the guidance and pathway that will nurture their needs.
I am definitely not thinking anything negative towards the counsellors themselves as they are doing amazing work. My peeve exists because government health promotion takes a disease-orientated approach to funding sexual health issues.
The needs of those members of our community are great, however my desire is for sexual health to be viewed as a real health issue where prevention and harm minimization of all sexual health related issues are funded, respected and promoted as being very real and an important health concern.
By not acknowledging this we are affecting the help seeking behaviours of so many.
In the past two years alone I have met at least 6 women who have vaginismus. They have been unable to consummate their relationships/marriages, as penetration remains impossible. They have been married e.g. 6 yrs/ 15 yrs/ 20 yrs.
What is common is that they did not know what was wrong with them; they thought they were insane and broken. Those who dared to seek help were often made to feel bad, ashamed and were misdiagnosed (based on my clients - not people in general).
As you can see, our silence surrounding the topic of sex affects the information that other health care practitioners provide. The taboo and silence re sex affects us more than you know.
I know that people are not running around saying -
OMG I have this awesome sex therapist!!
Well actually it would be very awesome if you would do that :)
So while we wait for the world to catch on to this and loose their fear related to the word sex, lets let people know that they do not need to be embarrassed or ashamed. They do not need to live with something for 15 yrs prior to seeking help.
We are here for them, we are here for you!